Well, here I am at the beginning of another year. As I think about the last 58 years, here are some things I have learned (not necessarily in order of importance):
- Aging is a natural, physiological fact. You can’t change it. However, while you will get old, you don’t have to be old. It’s all about attitude.
- Embrace who you are, where you are, right now. If you are still in your youth, don’t be so full of yourself and stop comparing yourself to others. Taking the time to listen and observe will serve you well. If you are older, see # 1 and stop worrying about everything.
- The world is not going to hell in a handbasket. Not all young people are self absorbed, apathetic, and clueless. Virtually all of the young people I know care deeply about the world they live in, are action-oriented, and will probably do a better job running the world than we boomers have done. They will make the world a better place, just as we did- and our parents before us and so on. Each generation builds on the previous one.
- Lighten up- very few things are as bad as they seem. An optimistic outlook helps.
- Worrying is pointless. The future is indeed an illusion and doesn’t exist until the now. Live in the present, and thank God you are there to experience it.
- Have a plan. I learned the value of this from my wife Cathy. Without a plan to conduct your life, you will find it impossible to achieve your goals.
- Be better. Find something that you are currently doing and try to be a little better at it (better friend, citizen, parent, spouse, teacher, coach, teammate, etc…). Take time to reflect to see if it’s working.
- Count your blessings. Not your troubles and disappointments.
- Give. Give your time, talent, or treasure to those less fortunate than you are. Step up. Volunteer. Try.
- Never.Give.Up. If you start something that you believe is worthwhile, use everything at your disposal to finish it- whatever it may be. Learn to discern what is worthwhile and what is not- maybe that should be part of your plan.
- Find your passion. Many people march through life like lemmings toward a cliff- unaware of or indifferent to their fate. Your passion will change as you get older. Find it, pursue it- you won’t regret it.
- Just because you can doesn’t mean you should. Think about unintended consequences.
- My life’s priorities are, in this order : God, family & friends, myself, career. I have found that as difficult as it may be, keeping those priorities in line is necessary for a meaningful, happy life.
- Don’t let the trappings of success define who you are: awards, trophies, titles, degrees, won/lost records, etc… are just not that important, and they aren’t A true measure of success.
- Here is what success is as defined by John Wooden, NCAA championship basketball coach in the 70s- the greatest that ever was- “Success is a peace of mind which is a direct result of self satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to become the best you are capable of becoming.” He notes that achieving success as he defines it will yield those “things” from #14.
These are but a few of the things I have learned so far- they are not a to-do list, nor do I pretend to know what is needed for a successful life.. I have so much more to learn and share. I hope some of these ideas resonate with you. For now, I will continue to try to “be better”.
If you interested go to www.coachwooden.com to learn more about Coach Wooden.
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I don’t want to rub it in; but for those still stuck in the tundra, here’s a link on how to survive winter training:
http://www.runnersworld.com/cold-weather-running/how-to-train-through-the-winter-weather
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